I had a epiphany. Just to let you know, this is not my first and hopefully will not be my last, but no less it was my own major epiphany.
I think epiphanies fall into two categories: everyday epiphanies and life changing epiphanies. Everyday epiphanies can be experienced numerous times throughout the day. Small epiphanies like a better way to file paperwork, an easier path to follow when you leave the house in the morning. Easy stuff, new stuff, that use to be old stuff. These epiphanies are small compared to others. The second epiphanies are the good ones. I had a big one over the last few days.
Williams River Services continues to march on as a funeral advice and consulting service. It has been a pleasure to help the many folks I have with simple questions like “Which funeral home should I use?” to “I’m having a tough time with mom and I think I need to know what I should do next in keeping her safe and thinking about her final wishes.” None of these questions have easy answers. Nine out of ten times I can help a family save money and give them some piece of mind. In the end, I find that regardless of the answers I give, it is impossible for me to “charge” a family for any information or advise.
I have had years of education and hands-on experience in the field of “all things end of life.” Funeral directors need to have a rucksack full of hats. Often wearing 3 or 4 within a matter of minutes. Over the years I have giving millions of pieces of advice based on my years of experience and my areas of expertise. Looking back I think I helped a lot of folks. I think I have given out a lot of great helpful information.
Next question is – why would I do this? Why would I give away insider information to help a funeral consumer? Recently, I have gone though some hard times. For most of my life, my day to day was easy. Then, everything changed. I refuse to point the blame at anyone or any one thing that had happened to bring me to where I am now. I take full responsibility for every decision I have made. The best part of where I am now is that I finally realized what makes me happy. I hate to say it but, the view from down here ain’t to bad. What I thought were basic necessities, that I once took for granted, are actually a lot of shit I don’t need. It has been interesting to say the least but, I have learned a huge amount about who I am and who I want to be.
I am happy to say that things are looking better now. I have a good idea of who and where I am. When I had everything, I gave very little back to my community and friends. Now that I have nothing, I am finding that I am giving back, more and then some. And I am extremely happy about it. I don’t want to get all religious with you but no matter what happens to me, I will keep my faith in human nature. No more short-changing neighbors, no more thoughts of giving in to “the man,” no more putting me first, no more over-charging families who thought I was being ethical during a loss.
Maybe this will make amends for the last 20 years that I worked as a corporate funeral director who took advantage of so many. If you work at Jiffy Mart and have to sell a candy bar for $2.00, that’s it. You know your employer bought it for $0.25 but in order to keep getting a paycheck, you charge $2.00 to every customer that comes through the door. Those days are over for me and all of my advice or consulting for everything end-of-life is now free. If you feel my time was worth something or saved your family money, an offering would be appreciated. I say appreciated but not required.
As usual, call me with questions, (802) 353 0021. I would tell you to call me toll-free, but I just told you I’m broke.